Archive | August 2014

Birds of a Feather

fitting in blog

Growing up, one of my favorite stories was The Ugly Duckling. I sympathized with the duckling whom wanted nothing more than to be like all the other ducklings, at the very least be accepted by the other ducklings despite their differences. The ugly duckling’s surrounding dictated how it felt about itself. It longed to look like the other ducks when all the while it was really a beautiful swan. The moment of truth came when the ugly duckling came across a group of swans and was told that it too was a swan and not a duck.
Have you ever felt left out of the loop, like you just didn’t belong? You may be the only one who doesn’t speak the same language as everyone else, or maybe you’re the only one who doesn’t like to drink when you’re hanging out with friends; no girl wants to feel like she doesn’t fit in. However, many girls do find themselves feeling like an ugly duckling. It’s easy to become the outcast when the people around you are different. Not just on the outside, but also on the inside. Physical differences draw clear lines between people, from skin color to the brand of clothes one wears. When people don’t have the same morals and values as you, an invisible line gets drawn. Feeling like the outcast causes the pressure to conform. Don’t let your surroundings dictate how you feel about yourself. Your surroundings may call you a teacher’s pet when in reality you’re just someone who studies hard and knows when to ask for help. Drinking, legal or otherwise may not be appealing to you, and your surroundings may say that you’re a goodie-two-shoes or boring, but it isn’t true.
Psalms 139 reminds us that we’re fearfully and wonderfully made. No matter what it is that sets you apart from the people around you, fitting isn’t worth you changing who you are or what you believe. Andy Mineo makes this very point in his song, Never land when he says “We own things that we don’t need to impress people we don’t know, then we go broke trying to look rich. I can’t do it. I just won’t.” If you live your life trying to fit in with the people around you, you’ll enslave yourself because it’ll never stop. You may start with changing the clothes you wear, next your attitude and the way you behave. The next thing you know, you’ll lose yourself to be a clone of someone else, and you’ll be worse off then you thought you were in the first place. Insecurity will always make you believe the grass is greener on the other side. Once you realize that you’re a swan, you’ll stop trying swim with the ducks that reject your beauty and ultimately try to force you to reject your beauty as well.